Friday, May 8, 2009

The Wait

Today is one of the days I knew would come this week.  I am having a hard time knowing that so many of my friends are celebrating their first Mother's Day or 2nd, 3rd, etc and again, I am feeling alone.  I know that I am not really alone. I have a supportive husband, wonderful parents who try to understand, and friends that pray for me and are there when I need to talk.  Most days I feel consumed by thoughts of infertility.  Very rarely does an hour go by that there is not some kind of thought about it, rather sad or hopeful.  This afternoon has been one where rarely did I think of anything other than the fact I am not a mother on Mother's Day...again.

When I was going through my last miscarriage I bought a book called "Hannah's Hope".  It is a wonderful book that I want to encourage all of you that struggle with infertility or miscarriage or support someone with infertility or miscarriage, to read.  In that book I found a poem that I have come to rely on during days like today.  I posted it back in the winter, but I think it is needed today.


Desperately, helplessly, longingly, I cried;
Quietly, patiently, lovingly, God replied.
I pled and I wept for a clue to my fate...
and the Master so gently said,"Wait."

"Wait? you say wait?" my indignant reply.
"Lord, I need answers, I need to know why!"
Is your hand shortened? Or have you not heard?
By faith I have asked, and I'm claiming your Word.

My future and all to which I relate
hangs in the balance and you tell me to Wait?
"I'm needing a 'yes', a go-ahead sign.
Or even a 'no,' to which I'll resign.

You promised, dear Lord, that if we believe,
We need but to ask, and we shall receive.
Lord, I've been asking, and this is my cry:
I'm weary of asking! I need a reply.

Then quietly, softly, I learned of my fate
as my Master replied again, "Wait."
So I slumped in my chair, defeated and taut,
and grumbled to God, "So, I'm waiting...for what?"

He seemed then to kneel, and His eyes met with mine...
and He tenderly said, "I could give you a sign.
I could shake the heavens and darken the sun.
I could raise the dead and cause mountains to run.

I could give all you seek and pleased you would be.
You'd have what you want, but you wouldn't know Me.
You'd not know the depth of My love for each saint.
You'd not know the power that I give to the faint.

You'd not learn to see through clouds of despair;
you'd not learn to trust just by knowing I'm there.
You'd not know the joy of resting in Me
when darkness and silence are all you can see.

You'd never experience the fullness of love
when the peace of My spirit descends like a dove.
You would know that I give, and I save, for a start,
But you'd not know the depth of the beat of My heart.

The glow of My comfort late into the night,
the faith that I give when you walk without sight.
The depth that's beyond getting just what you ask
From an infinite God who makes what you have last.

You'd never know should your pain quickly flee,
what it means that My grace is sufficient for thee.
Yes, your dearest dreams overnight would come true,
but oh, the loss if I lost what I'm doing in you.

So, be silent, my child, and in time you will see
that the greatest of gifts is to truly know me.
And though oft My answers seem terribly late,
My most precious answer of all is still "WAIT".

- Russell Kelfer


Mama J said...

Amanda, I have read your blog for a while, although I don't think I've left you a comment. My situation is different than yours, but mother's day is rough for me this year, too. I had my first baby last year and he is now with Jesus. I am missing him now more than ever and I dread days like Sunday, when I'll be aching to hold my baby.

I just wanted you to know that I have been praying for you all week, asking God to give you strength and for him to bless you with a baby soon. And I wanted you to know that I'll be thinking of you on Sunday especially.

Kendra said...

I am with you Amanda. I made a decision to skip Church this year for Mothers day and spend the day by myself...well, me and Jesus rather!!! I am praying next year has a baby in your arms for Mothers day!!

Molly said...

Thinking of you always and hoping you are able to celebrate next year! (((((hugs)))))

Jenn said...

I just wanted you to know that this Mother's Day is very special to me because it is my first, but I certainly have not forgotten that you and I were supposed to share in this day together. I will be thinking of you and praying for you and Michael. And dont forget that Spencer still needs his mommy to smile this Sunday!

Anna said...

Hey Amanda, well, it's here. That day that we dread. Just know that today you are not alone. I am thinking about you. :) I hope you remember that you are an awesome person. You are strong and inspiring. I'm so glad to have found your blog! I think you and I need to get together and gang up on Dr. S. and get this thing rolling!!! lol :)
Anyway, I hope you have a peaceful day today. You are loved!
Happy Moxie Day!